A recent conversation with a close friend of mine has inspired me to share a little bit more on a topic relevant to many of us - Boundaries and learning how to mindfully say "no".
Looking back in time, I see myself as a little girl who wanted to be liked and accepted by the new friendships forming in her life, at school or outside of school - Belonging was everything. Hanging out with the cool kids was everything too, but before I realised I was 20 and my Inner Child was still trapped in wanting to be liked and seeking validation. And that mostly came through saying "yes" to most of the things I was offered or favours I was asked to do at the time.
Not breaking free from the people pleasing pattern will continuously attract similar experiences and despite the blame for the other person, the only responsible one is yourself.
It's much easier to believe the story we create; that if we speak up, the opposition will be offended that we got to say "no" to something they have asked for; than facing our own shadow and having these uncomfortable conversations about boundaries and availability. And trust me, finding your strong voice will trigger people, especially those who are always used to you giving. But their triggers are not your concern. Saying "no" doesn't have to be as daunting as we may expect, because those who truly love us will respect our availability as long as there is clear communication down our end. If you're worried about the other person's feelings, remember that it's much more respectful to politely say "no" than saying "yes" and then bad-mouthing them behind their back for being a pain in the ass. I guarantee that after you taste the fruit of your boundaries, the process of stepping up will become a lot smoother in time.
When one door closes, another one opens and that constant fatigue will be replaced with fresh opportunities that are more aligned with your energy and growth.
Having strong boundaries is a part of the embodiment and operating from the Creator Consciousness instead of the Victim Consciousness. Minerals supporting boundaries and using your voice: Yellow & Honey Calcite, Epidote, Black Tourmaline, Blue Chalcedony, Aquamarine, Cavansite, Pentagonite, Phantom Quartz & Smoky Quartz.
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